How much time a dead is to be mourned by women (Hadith Prophet Muhammad ﷺ)

Every ling being is destined to perish one day - and humans are no exception. Despite the bitter reality, one finds it extremely difficult to comprehend the death of a near and dear one, specially the women who are emotionally more sensitive than men. It is often seen that women wear black or white clothes to mourn the dead for a long time. 

Since one cannot die with the dead and has to live on, Prophet Muhammad ﷺ specially asked women not to mourn more than what is required and then carry one with their lives as normal beings. The time period specified for women to mourn for their husbands and others is mentioned in a Hadith, as mentioned in Sahi al-Bukhārī  (Book 23:  Funerals (Al-Janaa'iz) / كتاب الجنائز / Chapter 30:  The mouring of a woman for a dead person other than her husband / باب  إِحْدَادِ الْمَرْأَةِ عَلَى غَيْرِ زَوْجِهَا / as Hadith 12807, given herein under:

Narrated Zainab bint Abi Salama:

When the news of the death of Abu Sufyan reached from Sham, Um Habiba on the third day, asked for a yellow perfume and scented her cheeks and forearms and said, "No doubt, I would not have been in need of this, had I not heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying: "It is not legal for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn for more than three days for any dead person except her husband, for whom she should mourn for four months and ten days."

Arabic Text:

حَدَّثَنَا الْحُمَيْدِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، حَدَّثَنَا أَيُّوبُ بْنُ مُوسَى، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي حُمَيْدُ بْنُ نَافِعٍ، عَنْ زَيْنَبَ ابْنَةِ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ، قَالَتْ لَمَّا جَاءَ نَعْىُ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ مِنَ الشَّأْمِ دَعَتْ أُمُّ حَبِيبَةَ ـ رضى الله عنها ـ بِصُفْرَةٍ فِي الْيَوْمِ الثَّالِثِ، فَمَسَحَتْ عَارِضَيْهَا وَذِرَاعَيْهَا وَقَالَتْ إِنِّي كُنْتُ عَنْ هَذَا لَغَنِيَّةً، لَوْلاَ أَنِّي سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏ "‏ لاَ يَحِلُّ لاِمْرَأَةٍ تُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ أَنْ تُحِدَّ عَلَى مَيِّتٍ فَوْقَ ثَلاَثٍ، إِلاَّ عَلَى زَوْجٍ، فَإِنَّهَا تُحِدُّ عَلَيْهِ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا ‏"‏‏.‏

The ruling on the mourning (ḥidād) period of women is well covered in both Qur'an and the hadith after someone passes away, especially concerning how long women are to mourn, which is a matter of Islamic ethics, law (fiqh), and social norms.

The above stated Hadith clearly lays the time period for women both in case of death of her husband and others. 

This hadith is directly grounded in a clear command from the Qur'an:

• Surah Al-Baqarah (2:234): “And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind — they (the wives) shall wait four months and ten days. And when they have fulfilled their term, there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable manner. And Allah is [fully] aware of what you do.”

Key Points of Hadith

• The ḥidād period for a widow is four months and ten days, exactly as stated in both the Qur’an and the hadith.
• During the period of "Mourning" (Ḥidād) one must abstain from:
• Beautification (e.g., perfume, kohl, jewelry, adornment)
• Marriage proposals or remarriage (in case of widows)
• Social events or excessive interaction (depends on culture and scholars' views)

The hadith specifies:

• For non-husbands (e.g., parents, children, friends): mourning up to 3 days
• For a husband: mourning is obligatory for 4 months and 10 days

This applies specifically to Muslim women. For men, Islam does not prescribe a specific mourning period but encourages patience (ṣabr), duʿāʾ, and good deeds for the deceased.

Wisdom Behind the Mourning Period (For Widows (4 months 10 days):

• To honor the marital bond and grieve properly
• To ensure there’s no pregnancy before remarriage (practical and protective wisdom)

Wisdom Behind the Mourning Period For Others (3 days): Islam respects emotional needs but sets limits to avoid excessive grief that can harm faith or mental health

Balancing Between Emotion and Faith

The Prophet ﷺ allowed a woman to grieve, but discouraged extreme or prolonged mourning beyond what is prescribed. This is part of Islam's balanced approach between:

• Human emotion
• Faith in Allah’s decree
• Living life with dignity even after loss

This shows how the Sunnah (hadith) explains and complements the Qur’an, especially in matters of law and practical life. It also highlights how mourning is respected, but not allowed to become excessive or culturally superstitious. It also educates the Muslims to show obedience to the commands of Allah and surrender to His will, for He knows them better than they know themselves.

You may like to watch an informative video lecture on the subject given herein under:

While death is inevitable and every one has to encounter this one day in one's life, the others should not die along with the dead. Rather they must accept the inevitably of the death, the wisdom of which is only know to Allah, our Creator, Who created us for specific purpose in His overall plan, and takes us back to Him when our part has been played. So let us abide by the time period laid down in Islam and continue to live on so that we are able to play our part of the plan and be ready to leave for death comes unannounced, even for the most affluent and the rich as well as the poor.

May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى‎) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door. 

وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ‏ 

(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”

That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.

May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.

Reading the Qur'ān should be a daily obligation of a Muslim - Reading it with translation will make it meaningful. But reading its Exegesis / Tafsir will make you understand it fully. It will also help the Muslims to have grasp over social issues and their answers discussed in the Qur'an and other matter related to inter faith so that they are able to discuss issues with non-Muslims with authority based on refences from Qur'an.

Note: When we mention God in our posts, we mean One True God, we call Allah in Islam, with no associates. Allah is the Sole Creator of all things, and that Allah is all-powerful and all-knowing. Allah has no offspring, no race, no gender, no body, and is unaffected by the characteristics of human life.

Please refer to our exclusive reference page Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ for more etiquettes attributed to Prophet Muhammad.

For more hadiths on varying subjects, refer to our reference page: Sunnah and Hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to know more about Hadiths and Sunnah of Prophet of Allah. You may also refer to our Reference Pages for knowing more about Islam and Qur'ān.

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Gravity of disrespecting the graves - Hadith Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ)

Sanctity of the final resting places of one's near and dear ones is a very sensitive matter and no one would ever like the disrespect to the graves. Generally it is seen that while people are waiting for a burial to get completed, they tend to sit on the nearby graves or climb over the graves, acts that are viewed as disrespect to the person buried inside. We share today a hadith which gives out a very a powerful and profound statement from the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ). It highlights the gravity of disrespecting the deceased, especially by sitting on or near a grave. Here's the hadith again for reference:

"If one of you were to sit on a live coal that burns him, that would be better for him than if he were to sit on a grave." — Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 1566

Explanation of the Hadith

• Prohibition of Sitting on Graves: 
• The Prophet (ﷺ) is emphasizing the seriousness of sitting on graves, which is generally considered a disrespectful and inappropriate act in Islam. Graves are sacred, as they represent the final resting place of the deceased, and a place where their family and loved ones come to pay their respects.
• Islam teaches that we should treat the dead with respect, and sitting on a grave symbolizes a lack of regard for the sanctity of the burial site. The hadith compares this to something as painful as sitting on a live coal, which burns the person. The comparison indicates that the act of sitting on a grave is so severe and harmful that it is worse than suffering through physical pain.
• The Significance of Respecting the Dead:
• Respect for the dead is a fundamental part of Islamic etiquette and ethics. The Quran and the teachings of the Prophet (ﷺ) consistently stress that the deceased should be treated with honor, especially in their graves. There are other hadiths where the Prophet (ﷺ) forbade actions like sitting on graves or walking over them.
• The grave is viewed as a place where the soul of the deceased enters a new phase of existence, and it is considered inappropriate to show disrespect or trivialize it. Therefore, actions such as sitting on graves are seen as an offense, not only to the deceased but also to the living, because it goes against the Islamic principles of dignity and respect.
• The Severe Consequences of Disrespecting the Deceased:
• By equating sitting on a grave to the pain of sitting on a burning coal, the Prophet (ﷺ) is highlighting the severe spiritual consequences of showing disrespect towards the grave and the deceased. The physical pain of sitting on a live coal may fade, but the disrespect for the grave is a serious moral and spiritual misdeed.
• It is a reminder to Muslims to maintain proper conduct and awareness of the sanctity of all life stages—from birth to death. Just as we honor the living, we must also honor the deceased.

Linking this to Islamic Etiquette:

The hadith is part of the broader Islamic emphasis on etiquette and manners. Islam emphasizes that the dead should be treated with kindness, and certain behaviors are strictly forbidden:

• Sitting on graves: This is seen as an act that goes against the dignity of the deceased.
• Walking over graves: The Prophet (ﷺ) also forbade walking over graves in a disrespectful manner. The idea is that the grave is a resting place for the soul, and such actions should be avoided to maintain reverence for the dead.
• Maintaining silence at graves: 
• When visiting graves, Muslims are encouraged to make du'a (prayers) for the deceased, not to engage in loud or disrespectful behavior.
• Hadith of the Prophet (ﷺ) on Visiting Graves: While the hadith you shared prohibits disrespecting the graves, there are also hadiths where the Prophet (ﷺ) encourages Muslims to visit graves, but with a respectful attitude:
• The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I used to forbid you from visiting graves, but now you may visit them." (Sahih Muslim)
• This hadith shows that while Muslims are encouraged to visit graves to remind themselves of the afterlife, they are also instructed to do so with respect and reverence.

Moral Lessons from the Hadith

Respect for the dead is a moral duty in Islam, and this hadith underscores that even acts of physical discomfort (like sitting on burning coals) are better than actions that show disrespect to the deceased.

• Avoiding unnecessary harm: Just as sitting on burning coals would inflict harm on one's body, disrespecting graves harms the soul and reflects badly on the individual's character.
• Reminder of the afterlife: Sitting on a grave or being disrespectful toward it may also be seen as showing a lack of recognition of the reality of the afterlife and the inevitable journey that we will all take. Respecting graves can be seen as a way of acknowledging our own mortality and reinforcing the understanding that life in this world is temporary.

This hadith thus gives out a clear warning against disrespecting the graves of the deceased. It uses the analogy of sitting on a burning coal to show just how grave the act is. It reminds us that our conduct toward the dead should always be respectful, as they are in a state where they cannot defend themselves, and their graves are sacred in Islam. In a broader sense, it teaches us the importance of showing kindness, respect, and empathy in all aspects of life, especially when it comes to matters of death and the afterlife.

May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى‎) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door. 

وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ‏ 

(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”

That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.

May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.

Reading the Qur'ān should be a daily obligation of a Muslim - Reading it with translation will make it meaningful. But reading its Exegesis / Tafsir will make you understand it fully. It will also help the Muslims to have grasp over social issues and their answers discussed in the Qur'an and other matter related to inter faith so that they are able to discuss issues with non-Muslims with authority based on refences from Qur'an.

Note: When we mention God in our posts, we mean One True God, we call Allah in Islam, with no associates. Allah is the Sole Creator of all things, and that Allah is all-powerful and all-knowing. Allah has no offspring, no race, no gender, no body, and is unaffected by the characteristics of human life.

Please refer to our exclusive reference page Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ for more etiquettes attributed to Prophet Muhammad.

Please refer to our reference page: Collection of Hadiths of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ about Warning and Cautions for more Hadiths on the subject

For more hadiths on varying subjects, refer to our reference page: Sunnah and Hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to know more about Hadiths and Sunnah of Prophet of Allah. You may also refer to our Reference Pages for knowing more about Islam and Qur'ān.

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The importance of reconciliation and resolving conflicts between believers in Islam (Hadith Prophet Muhammad ﷺ)

The religion of Islam literally means the religion of peace, harmony and loving bondage between believers. It is against the basic teaching of Islam to harbour rancour (or malice) in hearts for other believers. And it is stressed both in Qur'an and hadiths attributed to Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to make every effort to resolve conflicts between believers and bring them to a reconciliatory platform. And it is cautioned that of two believers do not resolve their mutual issues that are a source of hatred and enmity for each other, the doors of paradise will not open for them.

We share today a Hadith on this very subject as mentioned in Sahih Muslim  (Book The Book Of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, And Joining Of The Ties Of Kinship - Chapter 46 on the topic of Virtue Good Manners as Hadith 6544, given herein under:

Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger ( ‌صلی ‌اللہ ‌علیہ ‌وسلم ‌ ) as saying: 

The gates of Paradise are not opened but on two days, Monday and Thursday. and then every servant (of Allah) is granted pardon who does not associate anything with Allah except the person in whose (heart) there is rancour against his brother. And it would be said: Look towards both of them until there is reconciliation; look toward both of them until there is reconciliation; look towards both of them until there is reconciliation. 

This hadith has been narrated on the authority of Suhail who narrated it on the authority of his father with the chain of transmitters of MaIik, but with this variation of wording:, (Those would not be granted pardon) who boycott each other.

Arabic Text:

حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ مَالِكِ بْنِ أَنَسٍ، فِيمَا قُرِئَ عَلَيْهِ، عَنْ سُهَيْلٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، قَالَ: تُفْتَحُ أَبْوَابُ الْجَنَّةِ يَوْمَ الْإِثْنَيْنِ، وَيَوْمَ الْخَمِيسِ، فَيُغْفَرُ لِكُلِّ عَبْدٍ لَا يُشْرِكُ بِاللهِ شَيْئًا، إِلَّا رَجُلًا كَانَتْ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ أَخِيهِ شَحْنَاءُ، فَيُقَالُ: أَنْظِرُوا هَذَيْنِ حَتَّى يَصْطَلِحَا، أَنْظِرُوا هَذَيْنِ حَتَّى يَصْطَلِحَا، أَنْظِرُوا هَذَيْنِ حَتَّى يَصْطَلِحَا

Let us understand the key points mentioned in the Hadith:

• Opening of the Gates of Paradise: The gates of Paradise being opened on Monday and Thursday indicates that these days are special times for Allah’s mercy. It highlights the opportunity for forgiveness that is available to all believers.
• Pardon for the Believers: Allah, in His mercy, forgives the sins of those who are monotheistic (i.e., do not commit shirk, or associate anything with Allah). However, there is a condition for forgiveness: reconciliation must happen between individuals who are in conflict.
• The Exclusion of Those with Rancor: People who harbor rancor or hatred toward their fellow Muslims will not receive forgiveness during these times unless they reconcile. The term “rancor” refers to deep-seated ill-will or grudges, especially that which prevents peaceful relations between two parties.
• Emphasis on Reconciliation: The phrase “give them both time until there is reconciliation” is repeated three times in the hadith, which underscores the importance of reconciling. Allah is showing a clear preference for peace and harmony among believers, and He is giving time for people to make peace with each other before He grants forgiveness.
• The Seriousness of Conflict: The hadith highlights how significant the issue of maintaining good relations is in Islam. It implies that a person who refuses to reconcile and continues to harbor negative feelings or boycotts their brother is not in a state that is pleasing to Allah, even if they are otherwise pious or worshiping Allah correctly.

In view of the above key points, we should learn the lesson to induce love between hearts of believers and understand why reconciliation is necessary between believers: 

• Importance of Reconciliation: Islam places great emphasis on maintaining peace and harmony between people, especially among Muslims. The hadith makes it clear that refusing to reconcile or maintaining hostility can block the path to forgiveness from Allah.
• Forgiveness and Mercy: While the hadith emphasizes reconciliation, it also highlights Allah's mercy, as He grants forgiveness to the majority of His servants who are sincere. However, those who let personal grudges get in the way of their relationship with others will find that their ability to receive Allah’s mercy is delayed.
• Spiritual Health: This hadith serves as a reminder that spiritual health is not just about worship or avoiding sins but also involves healthy interpersonal relationships. A Muslim’s heart should be free from malice, jealousy, or hatred towards others, as these feelings can act as barriers to receiving Allah’s mercy.
• Opportunity for Reconciliation: Allah is patient and gives time for reconciliation, showing that while He is ready to forgive, He also wants us to work towards resolving our disputes and repairing our relationships.

The Practical Implication of this Hadith

If you are in a conflict with someone, this hadith is a powerful reminder to make the effort to reconcile and seek peace. Holding grudges or refusing to forgive others not only harms relationships but also stands in the way of Allah’s forgiveness. Therefore, believers should strive to maintain peace and harmony within their communities and families.

The loving harmony between believers assumes so much of importance that even if one has boundless faith in Allah, his forgiveness will be deferred if he harbours rancour or malice in his heart for others  till he reconciles with whom he carries a grudge and resolve the very cause of conflict amicably. However, if one person has harmed another person, then this caution is not applicable to the one who has been harmed. And in the meantime, the onus of reconciliation will solely lie on the aggressor and he will not be forgiven unless he himself reconciles with the one whom he has harmed and made good the harm so caused. And if that be so, then the aggrieved person should also forgive the aggressor.

May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى‎) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door. 

وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ‏ 

(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”

That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.

May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.

Reading the Qur'ān should be a daily obligation of a Muslim - Reading it with translation will make it meaningful. But reading its Exegesis / Tafsir will make you understand it fully. It will also help the Muslims to have grasp over social issues and their answers discussed in the Qur'an and other matter related to inter faith so that they are able to discuss issues with non-Muslims with authority based on refences from Qur'an.

Note: When we mention God in our posts, we mean One True God, we call Allah in Islam, with no associates. Allah is the Sole Creator of all things, and that Allah is all-powerful and all-knowing. Allah has no offspring, no race, no gender, no body, and is unaffected by the characteristics of human life.

Please refer to our exclusive reference page Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ for more etiquettes attributed to Prophet Muhammad.

For more hadiths on varying subjects, refer to our reference page: Sunnah and Hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to know more about Hadiths and Sunnah of Prophet of Allah. You may also refer to our Reference Pages for knowing more about Islam and Qur'ān.

Photo | Source of Hadith | Help taken from ChatGPT for expanding meaning of the Hadith

Disclaimer: The material for this post has been collected from the references as given above. If anyone differs with the material contained in this post, one may consult the references and their authors.  If someone has more material about the subject, he/she is most welcome to share in the comments box to make the post all encompassing.

If you like Islam: My Ultimate Decision, and to keep yourself updated on all our latest posts to know more about Islam, follow us on Facebook. You may also refer to our Facebook  Group Islam: The Ultimate Truth for more on Islam and Da'wah.

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What to say if one forgets to say Bismillah before eating food (Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ)

Life of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ is full of teaching, rendering advices and letting others know the etiquettes of living a life according the Divine guidance as contained in Qur'an. Since besides being a religion, Islam is complete code of life and code of conduct, it encompasses every action of a man which should be taken as per explained in Qur'an and practically demonstrated by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. 

And when it comes to taking one's meal, it should commence by taking the name of Allah, saying Bismillah بِسْمِ اللَّهِ  to show our gratitude to our Creator who has provided us the means of sustenance and food to eat. But what if forgets to say Bismillah before eating the food and continues and suddenly he remembers that he has not said Bismillah. 

Prophet Muhammad ﷺ guides us for such situations and has told us what to say to compensate for our omission. This Hadith is mentioned in Sunan Ibn Majah /  Book 29 Chapters on Food / كتاب الأطعمة) / Chapter 7: Saying bismillah when eating / باب  التَّسْمِيَةِ عِنْدَ الطَّعَامِ / as Hadith number # 3945 under:

It was narrated that ‘Aishah said:

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) was eating food with six of his Companions when a Bedouin came and ate it all in two bites. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘If he had said Bismillah, it would have sufficed you (all). When any one of you eats food, let him say Bismillah, and if he forgets to say Bismillah at the beginning, let him say Bismillah fi awwalihi wa akhirih (In the Name of Allah at the beginning and at the end).’”

Arabic Text:‏

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ، عَنِ هِشَامٍ الدَّسْتَوَائِيِّ، عَنْ بُدَيْلِ بْنِ مَيْسَرَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُبَيْدِ بْنِ عُمَيْرٍ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ يَأْكُلُ طَعَامًا فِي سِتَّةِ نَفَرٍ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ فَجَاءَ أَعْرَابِيٌّ فَأَكَلَهُ بِلُقْمَتَيْنِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏ "‏ أَمَا أَنَّهُ لَوْ كَانَ قَالَ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ لَكَفَاكُمْ فَإِذَا أَكَلَ أَحَدُكُمْ طَعَامًا فَلْيَقُلْ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ نَسِيَ أَنْ يَقُولَ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ فِي أَوَّلِهِ فَلْيَقُلْ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ فِي أَوَّلِهِ وَآخِرِهِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏

Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)

This hadith emphasizes the importance of saying "Bismillah" (In the Name of Allah) before eating, and it reflects a broader Islamic principle that actions should be accompanied by the remembrance of Allah, especially when receiving sustenance.

The hadith suggests that when "Bismillah" is pronounced, the food is not only sufficient but also blessed, even if the quantity seems limited. The Bedouin, who did not say "Bismillah," quickly consumed the food, whereas invoking Allah’s name would have caused the food to suffice for everyone. This illustrates the concept of barakah (blessing) associated with remembering Allah.

If someone forgets to say "Bismillah" before eating, they are given a remedy by saying "Bismillah fi awwalihi wa akhirih" بِسْمِ اللَّهِ فِي أَوَّلِهِ وَآخِرِهِ (In the Name of Allah, at the beginning and at the end), which still invokes Allah's blessings retroactively.

Connection to the Qur'an

Let us see how this  complements the Qur'anic teachings by encouraging mindfulness of Allah's presence in daily activities, showing gratitude for His provisions, and seeking blessings in all affairs.

• Acknowledging Allah's Provision:
• The Qur'an repeatedly stresses that all sustenance comes from Allah. 
• In Surah Al-Baqarah (2:172), Allah commands believers to "Eat of the good things which We have provided for you, and be grateful to Allah." 
• By saying "Bismillah" before eating, a Muslim acknowledges Allah as the provider of the food and shows gratitude for it.
• Gratitude and Blessings:
• The act of saying "Bismillah" invokes blessings and barakah (divine increase) in the meal. This aligns with the Qur'anic idea that gratitude leads to an increase in blessings. 
• In Surah Ibrahim (14:7), Allah says, "If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]." 
• The Prophet ﷺ, by instructing to say "Bismillah," is encouraging gratitude that brings blessings, a theme also found in the Qur'an.
• Mindfulness of Allah:
• The Qur'an encourages mindfulness of Allah in all actions, including eating. 
• In Surah Al-An'am (6:121), believers are instructed to "Eat not of (meat) on which Allah's name has not been pronounced." 
• This verse points to the importance of beginning actions, especially related to food, with the remembrance of Allah’s name.

In view of the explanation of the Hadith and its connection with Qur'an, we must make it a habit to begin eating our meal by saying بِسْمِ اللَّهِ  (in the name of Allah). But if we forget it and begin eating, then no sooner we remember it should stop and say بِسْمِ اللَّهِ فِي أَوَّلِهِ وَآخِرِهِ (In the Name of Allah, at the beginning and at the end) and then resume eating. Allah will honour our omission and bless us, In sha Allah.

May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى‎) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door. 

وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ‏ 

(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”

That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.

May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.

Reading the Qur'ān should be a daily obligation of a Muslim - Reading it with translation will make it meaningful. But reading its Exegesis / Tafsir will make you understand it fully. It will also help the Muslims to have grasp over social issues and their answers discussed in the Qur'an and other matter related to inter faith so that they are able to discuss issues with non-Muslims with authority based on refences from Qur'an.

Note: When we mention God in our posts, we mean One True God, we call Allah in Islam, with no associates. Allah is the Sole Creator of all things, and that Allah is all-powerful and all-knowing. Allah has no offspring, no race, no gender, no body, and is unaffected by the characteristics of human life.

Please refer to our exclusive reference page Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ for more etiquettes attributed to Prophet Muhammad.

For more hadiths on varying subjects, refer to our reference page: Sunnah and Hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to know more about Hadiths and Sunnah of Prophet of Allah. You may also refer to our Reference Pages for knowing more about Islam and Qur'ān.

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Disclaimer: The material for this post has been collected from the references as given above. If anyone differs with the material contained in this post, one may consult the references and their authors.  If someone has more material about the subject, he/she is most welcome to share in the comments box to make the post all encompassing.

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The virtue of Gentleness and Kindness (Hadith Prophet Muhammad ﷺ)

There is no difference of opinion ever about the value of kindness, goodness and gentleness. Many a hard nuts that could not have otherwise been cracked generally give away to kindness. In fact in all studies and strategies taught to managers today it is suggested with force for being kind and good when brokering a business deal or confronting a difficult customer. 

Prophets too all along the history of prophethood had been confronted with with very hostile audience who would either no listen to them or turn down the Divine message with utter harshness and rebukes. Yet, Allah always advised the prophets to be kind and gentle in their approach for it is with kindness one can win over even the hardest of hearts. 

We share a hadith attributed to Prophet Muhammad ﷺ in the light of reference from Qur'an on the same subject. This Hadith is mentioned in Sunan Ibn Majah /  Book 33 Etiquette / كتاب الأدب) / Chapter 9: Gentleness / باب الرِّفْقِ / as Hadith number # 3687 under:

It was narrated from Jarir bin Abdullah Al-Bajali that the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) said: "Whoever is deprived of gentleness, he is deprived of goodness."

Arabic Text:‏

حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ تَمِيمِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ هِلاَلٍ الْعَبْسِيِّ، عَنْ جَرِيرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْبَجَلِيِّ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏ "‏ مَنْ يُحْرَمِ الرِّفْقَ يُحْرَمِ الْخَيْرَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏

Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)

The hadith emphasizes the importance of gentleness and kindness in one's actions and character. The hadith can be understood in the context of various teachings in the Quran that highlight the virtues of kindness, compassion, and good conduct.

In the Quran, Allah repeatedly emphasizes the importance of treating others with gentleness and kindness. For example, in Surah Al-Imran (3:159), it is mentioned:

"And by the mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you."

This verse illustrates that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was advised by Allah to be gentle with his companions, showing that gentleness fosters stronger bonds and better relationships. Similarly, in Surah An-Nahl (16:125), Allah instructs believers to:

"Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best."

This verse encourages Muslims to convey the message of Islam with wisdom and gentleness, demonstrating that the manner in which something is conveyed is as important as the message itself.

The life of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is rich with examples of gentleness, kindness, and goodness. Here are a few notable instances:

• Kindness to Children and the Vulnerable: 
• The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was known for his kindness and affection towards children. There are numerous narrations where he would play with children, carry them on his shoulders, and show them love and respect. 
• An example is when he allowed his grandchildren, Hasan and Husain, to climb on his back while he was in prostration during prayer. When asked why he did so, he replied that he wanted to prolong his prostration because they were on him.
• Compassion and Mercy: 
• The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) showed immense compassion and mercy, even towards his enemies. During the conquest of Mecca, when he had the opportunity to take revenge on those who had persecuted him and his followers for years, he instead forgave them and granted them amnesty. 
• He exemplified this mercy in his treatment of prisoners of war, ensuring they were treated humanely and often releasing them without ransom.
• Respect for Others: 
• The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) treated everyone with respect and dignity, regardless of their social status. He would listen attentively to people and give them his full attention, making them feel valued and heard. 
• An example is when he would shake hands with everyone, from elders to children, and he would never pull his hand away until the other person did.
• Gentleness in Teaching and Advising: 
• When correcting others or giving advice, the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) would do so gently and with wisdom. He understood the importance of guiding people without harshness or judgment. 
• A famous incident is when a Bedouin urinated in the mosque, and some companions wanted to rebuke him harshly. However, the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) intervened and asked them to calmly explain to the man that the mosque is a place of worship and purity.

These examples illustrate how the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) embodied gentleness, kindness, and goodness in his daily life. His actions serve as a timeless example for Muslims and people of all faiths on how to interact with others with compassion and respect.

Therefore, the hadith about gentleness can be seen as a practical application of these Quranic teachings. It suggests that a person who lacks gentleness may miss out on opportunities for goodness, both in their interactions with others and in their overall conduct. Gentleness is a trait that not only enhances personal character but also facilitates better communication, understanding, and harmony in society.

May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى‎) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door. 

وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ‏ 

(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”

That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.

May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.

Reading the Qur'ān should be a daily obligation of a Muslim - Reading it with translation will make it meaningful. But reading its Exegesis / Tafsir will make you understand it fully. It will also help the Muslims to have grasp over social issues and their answers discussed in the Qur'an and other matter related to inter faith so that they are able to discuss issues with non-Muslims with authority based on refences from Qur'an.

Note: When we mention God in our posts, we mean One True God, we call Allah in Islam, with no associates. Allah is the Sole Creator of all things, and that Allah is all-powerful and all-knowing. Allah has no offspring, no race, no gender, no body, and is unaffected by the characteristics of human life.

Please refer to our exclusive reference page Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ for more etiquettes attributed to Prophet Muhammad.

You may also refer to our reference page: Sunnah and Hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to know more about sunnah of Prophet of Allah. You may also refer to our Reference Pages for knowing more about Islam and Qur'ān.

Disclaimer: The material for this post has been collected from the references as given below. If anyone differs with the material contained in this post, one may consult the references and their authors.  If someone has more material about the subject, he/she is most welcome to share in the comments box to make the post all encompassing.

Photo | Source of Hadith

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The Etiquette of wearing shoes (Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ)

Our life hinges of balance. If balance is lost, our every act becomes unstable. And when it comes to one's faith, everything should be done ensuring balance. Since Islam is a complete code of life, every aspect of man's life is covered in Qur'an and further explained by sayings of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ for ensuring balance.

For many, a prophet telling his companions how to wear clothes and shoes may look little awkward. But there is wisdom in everything that prophets of Allah do and tell others. Let us take wearing the shoes - something that is so easy to do, but wearing the right shoe first and taking of the left shoe later has wisdom in it. 

This Hadith is mentioned in Sahi al-Bukhārī  (Book 77 Dress /  كتاب اللباس / Chapter 39:  Do not walk wearing one shoe only / بَابُ يَنْزِعُ نَعْلَ الْيُسْرَى‏ ) as Hadith 5855, given herein under:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "If you want to put on your shoes, put on the right shoe first; and if you want to take them off, take the left one first. Let the right shoe be the first to be put on and the last to be taken off."

Arabic Text:

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مَسْلَمَةَ، عَنْ مَالِكٍ، عَنْ أَبِي الزِّنَادِ، عَنِ الأَعْرَجِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ـ رضى الله عنه أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ "‏ إِذَا انْتَعَلَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَبْدَأْ بِالْيَمِينِ وَإِذَا نَزَعَ فَلْيَبْدَأْ بِالشِّمَالِ، لِتَكُنِ الْيُمْنَى أَوَّلَهُمَا تُنْعَلُ وَآخِرَهُمَا تُنْزَعُ ‏"‏‏.‏

Let us the wisdom behind this Hadith as understood by the scholars and Hadith interpreters:

• Honoring the Right Side: 
• Preference for the Right: In Islamic teachings, the right side is often given preference in various actions. This is based on the principle of honoring what is perceived as better or more virtuous. For instance, the right hand is used for eating, drinking, and greeting others, reflecting a broader etiquette in daily life. 
• Symbolism: The preference for the right side symbolizes positivity, righteousness, and blessing. By beginning with the right side, Muslims are reminded to start their actions with good intentions and in a manner that is pleasing to Allah.
• Attention to Detail and Discipline: 
• Mindfulness: The instruction to pay attention to which shoe is put on or taken off first encourages mindfulness in even the smallest actions. This mindfulness extends to all aspects of life, reminding Muslims that their faith is not just about major acts of worship but also about integrating Islamic values into every aspect of daily living.
• Discipline: Following this simple guideline cultivates a sense of discipline. It teaches believers to be deliberate and conscious in their actions, fostering a habit of living with purpose and intentionality.
• Spiritual and Physical Balance:
• Holistic Approach: Islam encourages a holistic approach to life, where physical actions are connected to spiritual meanings. This Hadith exemplifies how even mundane actions like putting on shoes can be infused with spiritual awareness and can serve as a reminder of one’s relationship with Allah. 
• Balancing Acts: 
• The practice of starting with the right side and ending with the left can also be seen as a metaphor for balancing the spiritual and the physical, the mundane and the sacred.
• That is why in another Hadith it is said that either wear shoes in both feet or keep both naked. 
• Avoiding Physical Imbalance: Walking with one shoe creates an imbalance in posture and gait, which can lead to discomfort or even injury. This Hadith encourages believers to maintain physical balance and avoid unnecessary strain on the body.
• Practical Advice: This advice is a practical guideline for daily life, emphasizing the importance of taking care of one's physical well-being. It reflects the broader Islamic principle of moderation and balance in all aspects of life.
• Humility and Adherence to Sunnah: 
• Following the Sunnah: By adhering to even the smallest of the Prophet's practices, Muslims express their love for him and their commitment to following his example in all aspects of life. It reinforces the idea that no action is too small to be guided by the Sunnah. 
• Humility: Following such detailed guidance also cultivates humility. It shows that believers are willing to follow the Prophet's teachings in all matters, big or small, thereby submitting fully to the guidance of Islam.
• Building a Habit of Consistency: 
• Developing Consistency: Repeating this simple action consistently builds a habit of starting tasks with the right side, which can translate into consistency and order in other areas of life. It’s a small, daily practice that reinforces the importance of structure and order in one’s life.

The Hadith about putting on the right shoe first and taking off the left shoe first goes beyond simple etiquette. It carries profound wisdom related to honoring the right side, fostering mindfulness, discipline, spiritual balance, and adherence to the Sunnah. By following this practice, Muslims are reminded to approach all aspects of life, even the most mundane, with a sense of purpose, awareness, and alignment with Islamic principles. This teaching reflects the comprehensive nature of Islam, where spirituality is woven into every action, reinforcing the connection between faith and daily living.

My dear sisters and brothers in Islam, while we follow the Sunnah, Hadith and etiquette of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, we should try to find wisdom behind each to know why even small things mean a lot for our religious education and inducing discipline in our lives. 

May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى‎) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door. 

وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ‏ 

(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”

That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.

May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.

Reading the Qur'ān should be a daily obligation of a Muslim - Reading it with translation will make it meaningful. But reading its Exegesis / Tafsir will make you understand it fully. It will also help the Muslims to have grasp over social issues and their answers discussed in the Qur'an and other matter related to inter faith so that they are able to discuss issues with non-Muslims with authority based on refences from Qur'an.

Note: When we mention God in our posts, we mean One True God, we call Allah in Islam, with no associates. Allah is the Sole Creator of all things, and that Allah is all-powerful and all-knowing. Allah has no offspring, no race, no gender, no body, and is unaffected by the characteristics of human life.

Please refer to our exclusive reference page Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ for more etiquettes attributed to Prophet Muhammad.

For more hadiths on varying subjects, refer to our reference page: Sunnah and Hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to know more about Hadiths and Sunnah of Prophet of Allah. You may also refer to our Reference Pages for knowing more about Islam and Qur'ān.

Photo | Source of Hadith

Disclaimer: The material for this post has been collected from the references as given above. If anyone differs with the material contained in this post, one may consult the references and their authors.  Assistance has also been taken from ChatGPT for expansion of meaning of the Hadith. If someone has more material about the subject, he/she is most welcome to share in the comments box to make the post all encompassing.

If you like Islam: My Ultimate Decision, and to keep yourself updated on all our latest posts to know more about Islam, follow us on Facebook. You may also refer to our Facebook  Group Islam: The Ultimate Truth for more on Islam and Da'wah.

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Etiquettes of visiting (and making) graves - Collection of Hadiths attributed to Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

Graveyards are places where our near and dear ones who took their Heavenly flights earlier are buried. In our extreme love for them and wanting their graves do not get obliterated due to weather hazards and rains, many of us cement the graves. Some even go much beyond and even erect structures and domes, elaborate marble structures, virtually indistinguishable from those of typical Christian graves.

Visiting graves is encouraged in Islam to remind individuals of death and the hereafter. The Prophet Muhammad said, "Visit the graves, for they will remind you of the Hereafter" Yet due to love for those buried in the graves, many a Muslim forget the Islamic teachings about making and visiting graves. In fact many Muslim graves are more reflective of the wealth of the family rather than an act in humility. Prophet Muhammad ﷺ in many a Hadith has strictly prohibited erection of structures, arranging festivities and making graves of saints as sanctuaries for people whose business thrive because of the graves.

In order to provide a clear direction of maintaining and visiting graves, herein under we share some of the Hadiths attributed to Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to educate Muslims about the code of conduct with respect to visiting (and making) graves:

Plastering of graves:

Prophet Muhammad ﷺ forbade the building of structures over graves. He emphasized that graves should not be plastered or used as places of worship to avoid falling into practices that could lead to idolatry.. This Hadith is quoted in Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim: Book 12 The Book Of Prayer - Funerals / Chapter Janaze Ke Ehkaam O Masail as Hadith number # 2245as under: [Reference 2]

Jabir said: Allah's Messenger ( ‌صلی ‌اللہ ‌علیہ ‌وسلم ‌ ) forbade that the graves should be plastered or they be used as sitting places (for the people), or a building should be built over them.

Arabic Text:

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ حَدَّثَنَا حَفْصُ بْنُ غِيَاثٍ عَنْ ابْنِ جُرَيْجٍ عَنْ أَبِي الزُّبَيْرِ عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنْ يُجَصَّصَ الْقَبْرُ وَأَنْ يُقْعَدَ عَلَيْهِ وَأَنْ يُبْنَى عَلَيْهِ 

Making graves a place of festivity:

This Hadith is mentioned in Sunan Abi Dawud (Book # 11  The Rites of Hajj (Kitab Al-Manasik Wa'l-Hajj) / كتاب  المناسك / Chapter # 666 Visiting Graves / باب زِيَارَةِ الْقُبُورِ

as Hadith number # 2042, quoted herein under: [ Reference 1]

Narrated by Abu Hurayrah:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: Do not make your houses graves, and do not make my grave a place of festivity. But invoke blessings on me, for your blessings reach me wherever you may be.

Arabic Text:

حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ صَالِحٍ، قَرَأْتُ عَلَى عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ نَافِعٍ أَخْبَرَنِي ابْنُ أَبِي ذِئْبٍ، عَنْ سَعِيدٍ الْمَقْبُرِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ "‏ لاَ تَجْعَلُوا بُيُوتَكُمْ قُبُورًا وَلاَ تَجْعَلُوا قَبْرِي عِيدًا وَصَلُّوا عَلَىَّ فَإِنَّ صَلاَتَكُمْ تَبْلُغُنِي حَيْثُ كُنْتُمْ ‏"‏ ‏.‏

Making graves as places of worship:

Prophet Muhammad ﷺ expressed his disapproval of Jews and Christians building places of worship at the graves of their prophets. He intended to warn Muslims against such practices.

This Hadith is mentioned in Sahi al-Bukhārī  (Book 23 Funerals (Al-Janaa'iz) /  كتاب الجنائز / Chapter 61:  What is disliked of establishing places of worship (mosques) over the graves / باب مَا يُكْرَهُ مِنِ اتِّخَاذِ الْمَسَاجِدِ عَلَى الْقُبُورِ ) as Hadith 1330, given herein under: [Reference 3]

Narrated by`Urwa:

Aisha said, "The Prophet (ﷺ) in his fatal illness said, 'Allah cursed the Jews and the Christians because they took the graves of their Prophets as places for praying."' Aisha added, "Had it not been for that, the grave of the Prophet (p.b.u.h) would have been made prominent but I am afraid it might be taken (as a) place for praying.

Arabic Text: حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مُوسَى، عَنْ شَيْبَانَ، عَنْ هِلاَلٍ ـ هُوَ الْوَزَّانُ ـ عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ـ رضى الله عنها ـ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ فِي مَرَضِهِ الَّذِي مَاتَ فِيهِ ‏ "‏ لَعَنَ اللَّهُ الْيَهُودَ وَالنَّصَارَى، اتَّخَذُوا قُبُورَ أَنْبِيَائِهِمْ مَسْجِدًا ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَتْ وَلَوْلاَ ذَلِكَ لأَبْرَزُوا قَبْرَهُ غَيْرَ أَنِّي أَخْشَى أَنْ يُتَّخَذَ مَسْجِدًا‏.‏ 

Sitting and loitering between the graves:

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ emphasized the importance of treating graves with respect. He instructed his followers not to sit or walk over graves, reflecting a deep respect for the deceased. 

This Hadith is quoted in Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim: Book 12 The Book Of Prayer - Funerals / Chapter Janaze Ke Ehkaam O Masail as Hadith number # 2250 as under: [Reference 4]

Abu Marthad al-Ghanawi reported Allah's messenger ( ‌صلی ‌اللہ ‌علیہ ‌وسلم ‌ ) as saying: Do not sit on the graves and do not pray facing towards them.

Arabic Text:

و حَدَّثَنِي عَلِيُّ بْنُ حُجْرٍ السَّعْدِيُّ حَدَّثَنَا الْوَلِيدُ بْنُ مُسْلِمٍ عَنْ ابْنِ جَابِرٍ عَنْ بُسْرِ بْنِ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ عَنْ وَاثِلَةَ عَنْ أَبِي مَرْثَدٍ الْغَنَوِيِّ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا تَجْلِسُوا عَلَى الْقُبُورِ وَلَا تُصَلُّوا إِلَيْهَا

Weeping by the graves:

The Prophet ﷺ encouraged visiting graves as a means of reflection and learning patience, and not a place for weeping and wailing specially by women.

This Hadith is mentioned in Sahi al-Bukhārī  (Book 23 Funerals (Al-Janaa'iz) /  كتاب الجنائز / Chapter 31:  Visiting the graves / باب زِيَارَةِ الْقُبُورِ ) as Hadith 1283, given herein under: [Reference 5]

Narrated by Anas bin Malik:

The Prophet (ﷺ) passed by a woman who was weeping beside a grave. He told her to fear Allah and be patient. She said to him, "Go away, for you have not been afflicted with a calamity like mine." And she did not recognize him. Then she was informed that he was the Prophet (ﷺ) . so she went to the house of the Prophet (ﷺ) and there she did not find any guard. Then she said to him, "I did not recognize you." He said, "Verily, the patience is at the first stroke of a calamity."

Arabic Text:

حَدَّثَنَا آدَمُ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا ثَابِتٌ، عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ مَرَّ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِامْرَأَةٍ تَبْكِي عِنْدَ قَبْرٍ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ اتَّقِي اللَّهَ وَاصْبِرِي ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَتْ إِلَيْكَ عَنِّي، فَإِنَّكَ لَمْ تُصَبْ بِمُصِيبَتِي، وَلَمْ تَعْرِفْهُ‏.‏ فَقِيلَ لَهَا إِنَّهُ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏.‏ فَأَتَتْ باب النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَلَمْ تَجِدْ عِنْدَهُ بَوَّابِينَ فَقَالَتْ لَمْ أَعْرِفْكَ‏.‏ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ إِنَّمَا الصَّبْرُ عِنْدَ الصَّدْمَةِ الأُولَى ‏"‏‏.‏

These are some of the many Hadiths about the code of conduct of visiting and making graves. and if we sincerely review each of the Hadith, we will find ourselves at tangent to the teachings and hadiths of  Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. Let us demonstrate practical manifestation of above quoted Hadiths and make our lives simpler as required by tenets of Islam and let us not visit graves and construct structures over them as means of show off.

May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى‎) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door. 

وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ‏ 

(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”

That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.

May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.

Please refer to our reference page: Collection of Hadiths of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ  for more Hadiths on the General Subjects, and Etiquettes taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ 

For more hadiths on varying subjects, refer to our reference page: Sunnah and Hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to know more about Hadiths and Sunnah of Prophet of Allah. You may also refer to our Reference Pages for knowing more about Islam and Qur'ān.

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