While much has been mentioned about love and are of one's spouse, Prophet Muhammad ﷺ too had on a number of occasions asked his companions to be good their wives as he himself has been so.
One such Hadith is mentioned Jami` at-Tirmidhi (Chapters on Virtues) كتاب المناقب عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم / Chapter # 64 The Virtue of the Wives of the Prophet (SAW) / باب فَضْلِ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ) as Hadith number # 3895 given herein under:
Narrated by 'Aishah:
that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "The best of you is the best to his wives, and I am the best of you to my wives, and when your companion dies, leave him alone."
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Arabic Text:
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لأَهْلِهِ وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لأَهْلِي وَإِذَا مَاتَ صَاحِبُكُمْ فَدَعُوهُ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ صَحِيحٌ مِنْ حَدِيثِ الثَّوْرِيِّ مَا أَقَلَّ مَنْ رَوَاهُ عَنِ الثَّوْرِيِّ . وَرُوِيَ هَذَا عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم مُرْسَلٌ .
As can be ascertained from the text of the Hadith quoted above, a lot of stress is laid on having cordial relation with one's spouse by taking care of her in the best possible love and care. A true Muslim does not abuse or shouts or physically mishandles his wife or his children. In fact, children learn from what they see in their home. Those homes where marital relations are abused have a negative fallout on the children who too become abusive and cruel once they grow up. The love for one's spouse also entails not talking bad or ill of the one who is dead and not abusing the dead one for the dead one is not there to give an explanation.
The family life of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ is the best example for us to emulate. Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was an exemplary family man. He was an effective, responsible and loving husband, father and grandfather.
So, my brothers and sisters in Islam, be very nice to your spouses and rear your families in total harmony with the tenets of Islam and love and care. Let us build a society based on families brought up in the best manner as taught by our Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.
May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door.
وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ
(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”
That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.
May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.
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