Man by nature is a peeping tom and is always on the lookout of the faults of the others to let others down. As the saying goes, "Others' lawn is always greener," man is always jealous of what his brother, neighbour or friends have. Therefore his eyes keep tracking what others are doing or buying or their relations with others and position in the society.
Mostly women are in the habit of being jealous of others and spying, and looking for faults for others for the purpose of point scoring and let others down. The severing of blood relations is generally due to the jealousy and hating of others by women. In many a hadith, They also have heartburns when they see other women having a better life or riding a better car or living in a posh house happily with their families. Prophet Muhammad ﷺ has cautioned women from such heinous acts and warned them of severe consequences on the Day of Judgement.
One such Hadith is mentioned in Sahi al-Bukhārī (Book 78 Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab) / كتاب الأدب / Chapter 57: Jealousy and mutual estrangement are forbidden / باب مَا يُنْهَى عَنِ التَّحَاسُدِ وَالتَّدَابُرِ ) as Hadith 6064, given herein under:
Narrated by Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales; and do not look for the others' faults and do not spy, and do not be jealous of one another, and do not desert (cut your relation with) one another, and do not hate one another; and O Allah's worshipers! Be brothers (as Allah has ordered you!")
Arabic Text:
حَدَّثَنَا بِشْرُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ، أَخْبَرَنَا مَعْمَرٌ، عَنْ هَمَّامِ بْنِ مُنَبِّهٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " إِيَّاكُمْ وَالظَّنَّ، فَإِنَّ الظَّنَّ أَكْذَبُ الْحَدِيثِ، وَلاَ تَحَسَّسُوا، وَلاَ تَجَسَّسُوا، وَلاَ تَحَاسَدُوا، وَلاَ تَدَابَرُوا، وَلاَ تَبَاغَضُوا، وَكُونُوا عِبَادَ اللَّهِ إِخْوَانًا ".
Jealousy is often rooted in insecurities and fears that a person may not even realize they have. These could include fear of oversimplification, fear of inadequacy, fear of abandonment, fear of being replaced, and fear of being judged.
Jealousy may take any of the following forms:
- Situational Jealousy.
- Romantic Jealousy.
- Creative Jealousy.
- Envy Jealousy.
- Pathological Jealousy.
- Sexual Jealousy.
- Attachment Jealousy.
- Sibling Rivalry.
Just can over the forms of the jealousies mentioned above. The last one should be on the top as jealousy stems with the siblings for being loved more or given more attention by parents. Even sisters are jealous of the spouse of their sisters and envy their romantic attractions. One may go on and on to discuss this single evil act from which stem many other ills of spying, envy, even hatred. Such actions often end up in having lost former closeness and affection and result in a state of alienation from a previous close or familial relationship. Estrangement can leave one wondering where they belong, and who they belong to. Estrangement can cut lifelong roots, leaving one feeling adrift.
Thus the hadith above says it all about Jealousy and Mutual Estrangement which most of us harbour in our hearts and envy others. It must be remembered that each one of us is given our share by Allah, and it is not taken away from share of others, nor a part of our share is given to others. Let us live a contended life and be thankful to Allah for what He thought best for us. We cannot equate our possessions with others nor can have part or whole of possessions of others, unless we are from the evil and usurp others' rights and possessions.
Let us be brothers as Qur'an advises to be so as to create an aura of tranquility and brotherhood, rather than of enmity and severing of our bondage.
May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door.
وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ
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2 comments:
Article with its references found useeful. It added worth in my knowledge. I concentrated 8 kinds of jealousy. Sibling Rivalry is proven in true story of Hadrat Yousaf Allaihissalam. Similarly, all other types are visible in present society.
Astaghfirullah Peeping Tom's are un wanted and there are very strict orders are for them which may be read under ASTANEDAN : One has right to extract out the eye of peeping Tom.
Thank you for reading the post and giving a positive feedback Anwar Butt. Before reading this Hadith, I too was oblivious of dangers of jealousy and mutual estrangement. You correctly highlighted example of Prophet Yusuf (peace be upon him) as for sibling rivalry is concerned.
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