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Thursday, 1 August 2024

Anger Management as taught by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ : What to say when one is angry

Anger is defined as an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, for example, or motivate you to find solutions to problems. To be angry is to be furious. People who get angry a lot have a short temper. This is a word for a common emotion: being mad or enraged. People get mad all the time, about traffic, homework, parents, children, and even the weather. 

It is generally seen that many a  man cannot control their emotions and exhibit an explosive outburst when being antagonized. In fact when a person is angry, he is temporarily robbed of the ability to think straight and takes erratic decisions for which he feel sorry for himself when the anger has subsided. The emotional and reactive outbursts in most cases cause losing friends and relatives, even business deals, and have very negative and deep impact on one's own life and health. 

In Islam, any unusual negative response to a situation is attributed to the work of the Satan and the evil forces, for these evil forces are all the time on the lookout of people who can be easily tempted to show their emotional response easily. Under such situations, one must immediately try to disengage from a situation and act upon the advice of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

This Hadith is mentioned Jami` at-Tirmidhi  (48 -  Chapters on Supplication / كتاب الدعوات عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم / Chapter # 51 What One Says When Angry / باب مَا يَقُولُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ  ) as Hadith number # 3452:

Mu`adh bin Jabal narrated :
that one of the two men cursed the other next to the Prophet (ﷺ), until anger could be recognized in the face of one of them. So the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Verily, I know a statement, that if he were to say it, his anger would leave: ‘I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan, the rejected (A`ūdhu billāhi minash-shaiṭānir-rajīm).’”

Arabic Text:
حَدَّثَنَا مَحْمُودُ بْنُ غَيْلاَنَ، حَدَّثَنَا قَبِيصَةُ، أَخْبَرَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ بْنِ عُمَيْرٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَبِي لَيْلَى، عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ، رضى الله عنه قَالَ اسْتَبَّ رَجُلاَنِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم حَتَّى عُرِفَ الْغَضَبُ فِي وَجْهِ أَحَدِهِمَا فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ "‏ إِنِّي لأَعْلَمُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ غَضَبُهُ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ حَدَّثَنَا بُنْدَارٌ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ، عَنْ سُفْيَانَ، بِهَذَا الإِسْنَادِ نَحْوَهُ ‏.‏ قَالَ وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ صُرَدٍ قَالَ وَهَذَا حَدِيثٌ مُرْسَلٌ ‏.‏ عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ أَبِي لَيْلَى لَمْ يَسْمَعْ مِنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ مَاتَ مُعَاذٌ فِي خِلاَفَةِ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ وَقُتِلَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ وَعَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ أَبِي لَيْلَى غُلاَمٌ ابْنُ سِتِّ سِنِينَ وَهَكَذَا رَوَى شُعْبَةُ عَنِ الْحَكَمِ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَبِي لَيْلَى وَقَدْ رَوَى عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ أَبِي لَيْلَى عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ وَرَآهُ وَعَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ أَبِي لَيْلَى يُكْنَى أَبَا عِيسَى وَأَبُو لَيْلَى اسْمُهُ يَسَارٌ وَرُوِيَ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَبِي لَيْلَى قَالَ أَدْرَكْتُ عِشْرِينَ وَمِائَةً مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏.‏
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)

This hadith offers insight into the Islamic approach to managing anger. The advice given by the Prophet (ﷺ) is deeply rooted in the Quranic teachings. Here are some Quranic verses that relate to this hadith:

Relevance to the Quran
  • Seeking Refuge from Shaitan:
    • Surah Al-A'raf (7:200): "And if an evil whisper comes to you from Shaitan, then seek refuge with Allah. Verily, He is All-Hearer, All-Knower." 
    • This verse explicitly instructs believers to seek refuge in Allah when tempted by Shaitan, which can include moments of intense anger.
  • Controlling Anger:
    • Surah Al-Imran (3:134): "Who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good." 
    • This verse praises those who restrain their anger and forgive others, showing the importance of controlling one's anger in Islam.
  • Shaitan’s Influence
    • Surah Al-Isra (17:53): "And say to My servants that they speak that which is best. Indeed, Shaitan induces [dissension] among them. Indeed Shaitan is ever, to mankind, a clear enemy." 
    • This verse indicates that Shaitan seeks to sow discord among people, which can often manifest through anger and arguments.
Practical Application
  • Managing Anger: The hadith provides a practical tool for managing anger by seeking refuge in Allah from Shaitan. This not only helps in calming down but also brings a spiritual perspective to the situation.
  • Recognizing Shaitan’s Role: Understanding that Shaitan can influence our emotions and actions helps in addressing the root cause of anger. By seeking refuge in Allah, a believer acknowledges Shaitan’s role and takes a step towards self-control.
Spiritual and Psychological Benefits:
Reciting "A`ūdhu billāhi minash-shaiṭānir-rajīm" serves as a reminder of Allah’s presence and helps divert the mind from the immediate cause of anger to a more peaceful state. It’s a form of mindfulness and spiritual grounding.

The hadith narrated by Mu`adh bin Jabal emphasizes the importance of controlling anger and provides a specific method to achieve it through seeking refuge in Allah from Shaitan. This practice is supported by various Quranic teachings that highlight the virtues of restraint, the detrimental role of Shaitan, and the effectiveness of seeking Allah’s protection. By implementing this prophetic advice, a believer can achieve greater emotional control and spiritual well-being.
May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى‎) help us understand Qur'ān and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, which is embodiment of commandments of Allah contained in the Qur'ān. May Allah help us to be like the ones He loves and let our lives be lived helping others and not making others' lives miserable or unlivable. May all our wrong doings, whether intentional or unintentional, be forgiven before the angel of death knocks on our door. 
وَمَا عَلَيۡنَاۤ اِلَّا الۡبَلٰغُ الۡمُبِيۡنُ‏ 
(36:17) and our duty is no more than to clearly convey the Message.”
That is Our duty is only to convey to you the message that Allah has entrusted us with. Then it is for you to accept it or reject it. We have not been made responsible for making you accept it forcibly, and if you do not accept it, we shall not be seized in consequence of your disbelief, you will yourselves be answerable for your actions on Day of Resurrection.

May Allah forgive me if my posts ever imply a piety far greater than I possess. I am most in need of guidance.

Reading the Qur'ān should be a daily obligation of a Muslim - Reading it with translation will make it meaningful. But reading its Exegesis / Tafsir will make you understand it fully. It will also help the Muslims to have grasp over social issues and their answers discussed in the Qur'an and other matter related to inter faith so that they are able to discuss issues with non-Muslims with authority based on refences from Qur'an.

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Please refer to our reference page: Collection of Hadiths of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ  for more Hadiths on the General Subjects.

For more hadiths on varying subjects, refer to our reference page: Sunnah and Hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to know more about Hadiths and Sunnah of Prophet of Allah. You may also refer to our Reference Pages for knowing more about Islam and Qur'ān.

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