- Different Cultural Norms and Values:
- Western Ideals of Gender Equality: In many Western societies, gender equality is often associated with the idea of men and women having equal access to all spaces and opportunities. Gender segregation can be perceived as a form of discrimination or inequality, as it separates men and women in various aspects of life, such as education, work, and social settings.
- Freedom of Choice: Many non-Muslims value individual freedom and autonomy highly, including the freedom to interact with people of all genders. Gender segregation might be seen as restrictive, limiting personal choices and freedoms.
- Perception of Gender Segregation as Oppressive:
- Association with Patriarchy: Some non-Muslims view gender segregation as a manifestation of patriarchal structures that aim to control and limit women’s roles and freedoms. This perception is often influenced by the view that gender segregation reinforces traditional gender roles, which some see as outdated or oppressive.
- Impact on Women’s Rights: Critics often argue that gender segregation can lead to unequal opportunities for women in education, employment, and social participation. For example, if certain professional or educational opportunities are only available to men or are harder for women to access, this is seen as a violation of women's rights.
- Misunderstandings and Stereotypes:
- Lack of Understanding of Islamic Principles: Some objections arise from a lack of understanding of the religious and cultural reasons behind gender segregation in Islam. Without knowledge of the concepts of modesty (haya) and the prevention of temptation (fitna), non-Muslims may see gender segregation as arbitrary or unjustified.
- Stereotypes and Media Portrayals: Media portrayals of Muslim societies often focus on extreme cases or negative aspects of gender segregation, reinforcing stereotypes that it is inherently oppressive. These portrayals can shape public perception and lead to broader objections.
- Concerns About Integration and Multiculturalism:
- Integration into Western Societies: In multicultural societies, there is often a concern that practices like gender segregation might hinder the integration of Muslim communities into the broader society. Some non-Muslims worry that maintaining such practices could create divisions or reduce social cohesion.
- Conflicts with Secular Values: In secular societies, the separation of religion from public life is a key value. Practices like gender segregation, which are religiously motivated, might be seen as incompatible with the secular principle of equal treatment for all citizens, regardless of gender.
- Human Rights Perspectives:
- Universal Human Rights: Some non-Muslims argue from a human rights perspective, suggesting that gender segregation violates principles of universal human rights, such as freedom of movement and association. They may view gender segregation as a practice that infringes upon the rights of women, particularly when it is seen as enforced rather than a voluntary choice.
- Concerns About Coercion: There is also concern that gender segregation in some Muslim societies is not always voluntary and that women may be coerced into accepting these norms due to social, familial, or legal pressures.
- Differences in Gender Dynamics:
- Gender Dynamics in Non-Muslim Societies: In many non-Muslim societies, interactions between men and women in social, educational, and professional contexts are generally seen as normal and even necessary for social development. Gender segregation may be perceived as hindering these interactions, which are considered important for fostering mutual respect and understanding between the genders.
- Concerns About Extremism:
- Association with Extremism: Some non-Muslims may associate strict gender segregation with extremist or fundamentalist interpretations of Islam. This association can lead to objections based on the fear that such practices might contribute to the marginalization or radicalization of communities.
As per a number of studies conducted in the West, the proportion of teenage girls losing their virginity before the age of 18 in Western countries generally falls between 30% and 40%. This figure varies slightly depending on the country and specific social or cultural factors. These statistics are based on self-reported data, which can sometimes be influenced by the willingness of respondents to disclose such personal information.
Due to these pre-marital relations, the concept of family is fast diminishing and many a "couple" elect to live outside the matrimonial bond, have children too and then breakaway at their will. More than boys, it si women who suffer who have to live alone like single parent and managing their finances all by themselves.
So much for gender equality, freedom and liberalism.
- Quranic Teachings:
- Lowering the Gaze: The Quran instructs both men and women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty.
Surah An-Nur (24:30-31): "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is acquainted with what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women."
This directive emphasizes the importance of modesty in interactions between men and women, encouraging a culture of respect and decorum.
- Hijab (Veil): The Quran also commands women to dress modestly, which includes covering their bodies in a manner that is not revealing or provocative.
Surah Al-Ahzab (33:59): "O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful."
This verse highlights the importance of women dressing modestly to protect themselves from harm and to promote a respectful social environment.
- Prohibition of Free Mixing: The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) discouraged unnecessary mixing between men and women who are not closely related.
Sahih Muslim (2172): `Uqba b. `Amir reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: Beware of getting, into the houses and meeting women (in seclusion). A person from the Ansar said: Allah's Messenger, what about husband's brother, whereupon he (ﷺ) said: Husband's brother is like death.
This hadith underscores the seriousness of avoiding physical contact between non-mahram men and women.
- Separate Spaces in Worship: During the time of the Prophet, men and women prayed in the same mosque but in separate areas. This practice of separate spaces for men and women during worship continues in many Muslim communities.
The Prophet said, "The best rows for men are the front rows, and the worst are the back rows, and the best rows for women are the back rows, and the worst are the front rows."
This arrangement was designed to maintain modesty and prevent distractions during worship.
2. Prevention of Fitna (Temptation): Islam teaches that certain interactions between men and women can lead to fitna, or temptation, which could result in immoral behavior. By encouraging gender segregation in specific settings, Islam seeks to minimize the chances of such temptations arising.
Surah Al-Ahzab (33:53): "And when you ask [his wives] for something, ask them from behind a partition. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts."
This verse was revealed in the context of the Prophet's household, emphasizing the need for a barrier or partition to avoid inappropriate interactions.
- Prohibition of Khalwa (Seclusion):
Sahih Bukhari (3006): Narrated Ibn `Abbas: That he heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman, and no lady should travel except with a Muhram (i.e. her husband or a person whom she cannot marry in any case for ever; e.g. her father, brother, etc.)." Then a man got up and said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! I have enlisted in the army for such-and-such Ghazwa and my wife is proceeding for Hajj." Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Go, and perform the Hajj with your wife."
This hadith prohibits a man and a woman from being alone together in a secluded place, as it could lead to inappropriate behavior.
Surah Al-Ahzab (33:32): "O wives of the Prophet, you are not like anyone among women. If you fear Allah, then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet, but speak with appropriate speech."
This verse advises the wives of the Prophet to speak in a manner that does not attract inappropriate attention, reinforcing the importance of maintaining dignity in interactions.
Now watch a video on the subject (in Urdu with English sub titles) by one of the most learned and eminent Muslim scholar of time from Pakistan, Professor Javed Ahmad Ghamidi, known for his stress on morals and ethics in Islam: